How to Get A Girl to Have Sex With You

Written by Chelsea on March 31, 2016


From the way most guys approach the subject of sex, you’d think that it was very difficult to get a girl to have sex with you.

This is because most men go about this the entirely wrong way and make a really big deal out of it, when it’s actually quite simple.

For it to be simple for you, however, there are some things you need to know. This article is a good place to start. I am about to give you some different methods on how to get ladies into bed with you.



Ask Her Straight Up

If there’s one thing in this world that every female is attracted to, it’s confidence.

The question is, how confident are you?

I’m not suggesting that you go up to random strangers and ask them to fuck without getting to know them first, but if you’re chatting up someone who seems to be into you, sometimes being open about your intentions is the best way to get what you want.

I’ve seen a few guys bold enough to try this and believe it or not, it works sometimes with certain female personalities.

You just need to be aware of whether she seems like the type. If she does, it can’t hurt to try, right? Especially if it’s someone you’re never going to see again anyway.

Forget About the Dick Pics

For some reason, some guys think that this works.

I can tell you, as a woman, that even the most attractive guy in the world sending a picture like this (un-asked for) is an automatic turn off.

Only send pictures of your penis if she explicitly asks (don't worry this will usually happen after you've gotten to intimately know her first).

Strange huh? If she wanted it later, then she should want it right when you met her, right? Not quite - girls are a little different than guys in this sense.

Of course a guy will want to see nudes immediately (before even getting to know her). Just remember girls are not that way - so if you get this down, you'll immediately stop killing your chances.

And by the way, if she explicitly asks, you’re already pretty much guaranteed to fuck her.



Love the Ladies

Do you have a friend that seems to always have the best luck with getting the most girls, even though he’s not even that attractive?

This is because he truly enjoys being around them. Women pick up on those vibes, and if you’re genuinely appreciative of them, they will respond to it.

It’s biological.

If you aren’t comfortable around girls or they intimidate you, it’s probably because you’ve had some bad experiences with rejection.

You need to forget about this.

Girls sense that vibe, and it will get you nowhere when it comes to getting them to sleep with you.

Be genuinely interested in and appreciative of women if you want to fuck them; trust me on this one.

No you don't have to cater to her every whim (in fact, don't), just learn to give and take, and compromise a little.



Get Some Female Friends

What is the best way to learn about what girls like and to get comfortable around them? To be around them, of course.

If you get used to being around females, you’ll learn to relax around them, and odds are, they will talk to you about guys, what they find attractive or unattractive, and more.

This is the best way to pick up tips on what works and what doesn’t.

This is one of the best ways to get free insight onto how to get girls to fuck you.

Don’t Use Pickup Lines

Any hot girl who has ever been around guys in her life has heard a wide range of ridiculous lines, all delivered with the intention of having sex with her.

I’ve had a guy ask me if I would like him to get me a star from the sky. No joke. Don’t be one of those guys.

Don’t try to trick girls into having sex with you, make them genuinely interested.

It isn’t as difficult as it seems, and to find out how, all you have to do is keep reading. Find out more about the effect of pickup lines here.



Get Her to Feel Beautiful

This doesn’t mean whistling at her on the street.

If you’ve started hanging out with a new girl, a great way to impress her is subtle compliments.

Most guys don’t take the time to notice things like a new haircut or a jacket you just bought.

The ones that do notice, and make a point to comment on it, really stand out.

If she thinks that you’re observant enough to note these small changes, and thoughtful enough to voice it, it’s going to count in your favor for getting her in your bed.

Again, this isn't 'beta' behavior, it's simply doing the easiest possible things that you can do to help you get laid.

Play Up Your Strong Points

When it comes to being the most attractive you can be, you’ve gotta be honest with yourself.

What are your strong suits? Do you have a great sense of humor? Use that to get what you want. Are you the intellectual type? Play up that angle.

Start hitting the gym more and make your body one of your strong points. If you look better, you’ll feel better, and it will make you more self-assured about trying to sleep with women.

Don’t be afraid to own what you’ve got.

Being aware of your strengths and assets is the key to confidence, which every woman is drawn to like flies to honey. You can read more about women’s attraction to confidence here.

Confident, Not Egotistical

I just talked about playing up your strengths in the point above, and that is exactly what you should do, but there’s a fine line between owning one of your great traits and letting it show, and bragging out of insecurity.

A truly confident guy doesn’t have to brag, even though he has plenty to brag about, and that’s what you should be striving for.

If you’ve got amazing qualities, trust me, she already noticed them. No need to go overboard with calling attention to these things.

Awesome traits speak for themselves. Guys who are comfortable with themselves are the ones who get the girls.

Don't play all your cards, be mysterious, make it known that you have awesome qualities, but don't let her in on what they are (at the very least, not right away) - let her figure it out.



Be Pleasant to the Girl’s Friends

If a girl’s closest friends decides that you’re an asshole, your chances of getting her into bed are gone.

Whatever chemistry you just spent the last two hours building up can vanish the instant one of her friends makes a disparaging remark about you.

Sure, her best friend may be the biggest bitch you’ve had the misfortune to encounter in the past decade, but you need to put this aside.

A lot of men forget this crucial element, and it’s an important one.

Learn to Enjoy Just Hanging Out

If all you’re after is sex, it’s pretty obvious, and that will turn girls away faster than you can blink.

Learn to enjoy simply being in her company and these good feelings will spread into her heart, and into her pants, where you will soon be getting.

Be Mysterious

If being a "bad boy" doesn’t come naturally to you, and you’re stuck being one of the nice guys who keeps getting friend-zoned, it’s time to make a change.

Girls are drawn to mystery.

Although it may be tempting to lay it all out on the table and let the chips fall where they may, that’s only going to work in your favor if you’re seeking out a new female BFF.

This isn’t exactly your best angle for getting a girl to have sex with you.

Why do guys keep getting friend-zoned? It’s because with friends, you’re showing them all your insecurities and leaving nothing to the imagination.

That’s not very attractive unless you’re seeking out a long-term partner, and that’s not what you’re after. If you want to learn more about the importance of mysteriousness, read about this study.



How to Handle Her When She's At Your Place

Now let’s assume that after perfecting all of these tips I gave you above, you’ve finally got her back at your place.

You’re sitting next to her and you can tell she’s thinking about getting physical.

You decide to go for a kiss and she kisses back enthusiastically. Suddenly you rip each other’s clothes off and just like that, you’re fucking.

This is obviously the ideal situation, but sometimes, it’s not quite that straight forward. A lot of women are not this aggressive or confident.

You may have had a wonderful day together and she may be just as horny as you, but she could still be nervous and hesitant. This tends to occur with younger or less experienced ladies.



She may want to take it slow. The key here is getting her to feel sexually comfortable around you.

This doesn’t mean you should wait around forever, holding onto hopes that someday, she’ll be ready or make the first move.

That’s how you bore her and make her lose interest. You need to be proactive about this. Here’s what you need to do to make her ready.

Get Her Relaxed

Before a girl can even begin to get turned on, she has to be in a state of relaxation.

This means her mind should be free from concerns and her body should be calm.

Play up the compliments and tell her she looks damn sexy.

If she seems tense, encourage her to relax in a soothing tone of voice. Ask her to close her eyes, lie down and breathe deeply. When she’s completely relaxed, she’ll be ready for you to...

Turn Her On

If this girl is going to bang you, she needs to be turned on.

You want her to be so horny and wet that she cannot stand waiting another moment to have you inside of her.

Take your time with this, it’s foreplay. Girls need to be primed before it’s time for them to get down to business.

You need to tease her and touch her everywhere. This can mean running your hands along her arms and legs, massaging her body, kissing her face and neck, touching her hair.



Keep Her Guessing

Don’t hesitate to mix it up a bit.

Progress with the foreplay and touching, then go back to innocent action, and then get back to escalating.

These are the best ways to make sure there is a smooth progression up to the sex.

Not every woman is the same, but most of them like at least 15 minutes of pre-play before getting down to the actual action.

Don’t Ignore Her Signals

If she makes a move or seems uncomfortable, it’s time to slow down.

This doesn’t mean the action is out of the question, it just means a pause.

Pushing it when she’s trying to slow down is the best way to ruin your chances for good.

If you pick up any signs of her having second thoughts, be respectful about it, and she will respond.

Stay calm, give her a smile, and stay turned on. Make sure it’s clear that this is an environment free of judgment.

If she’s brushing off your attempts, just go back a step to whatever you were doing before. You can always take a few moments to talk with her a bit and get her to relax again.

A lot of times, she just needs a bit more foreplay before she’s ready to go. If you’re going to get what you want, you can’t be forceful about it. Be respectful and it will happen.



If for some reason, it doesn’t happen that evening, if you follow the steps above and stay patient, it will make her want to fuck you later. If you do these things, it’s almost guaranteed she’ll be ready the next time.

Don’t forget, Rome wasn’t built in a day. You’re still creating the levels of sexual tension and attraction here. You won’t end up in the friend zone if you follow these steps.

Remember that you can’t force a girl to want to fuck you. She has to decide this by herself, but if you stick with the advice I’ve given you in this article, there’s no reason she won’t.


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