The Ultimate Fleshlight Guide and What to Expect When Using It

Written by Mike and Jeff on January 30, 2016

What is the Fleshlight?

The Fleshlight Stamina Training unit

The Fleshlight was originally a masturbation sex toy for guys, but it now has a "Stamina Training Unit" model for guys to practice edging

This article is going to focus on the Stamina Training Unit and how you can use it in Edging training to help solidify your mind-penis control.

Why should I use the Fleshlight?

The Fleshlight helps with your edging exercises.

Remember, edging it a technique that solidifies your mind-penis connection to prevent premature ejaculation and to have more control over your orgasm.

The Fleshlight also provides an increased physical stimulation on your penis - similar to the feel of a vagina, and is a way better alternative to just using your hand with lube.

As a result, using the Fleshlight is a more realistic simulation of actual sex, so when you're actually doing the real thing, it'll be almost exactly like your Fleshlight training, so you won't have any premature ejaculation issues.

Things to do before using the Fleshlight

Closely trimming or shaving your pubic hair is a must.

You need to do this because your public hair will prevent you from forming an air-tight seal with the Fleshlight - it won't work if you can't form the seal.

However, I recommend doing a real close trim because shaving usually leads to torturous itchiness when your stubble grows back.

That's because even if you trim the hair real short, a seal can still be formed.

Just be aware that you have to maintain really short pubic hair - if the air-tight seal starts to break one day, it's probably because your hair grew back and it's too long.

The best way to do this, from personal experience is to invest in a decent to quality set of clippers.

The set should be rechargeable, and have accessories like different clipper heads - especially a fine one to get the hairs really short.

The Different Parts of the Fleshlight

These are the names of the parts that we're going to use to refer to when we're explaining how to use the Fleshlight.

  1. The Pressure Valve - It's the switch on the tip of the Fleshlight that locks the pressure in or releases it.
  2. The Main Cylinder - This is where all the water is stored and where your penis is placed.
  3. The Foam Ring - This is the part that connects the Fleshlight to your body. It's designed to form a seal with your pelvis to trap the water inside.

How to Use the Fleshlight

Beginners and intermediate Fleshlight users should use the Fleshlight differently.

We'll explain the differences for both later.

For now, we'll give you the typical usage of the Fleshlight.

  1. Warm-up your penile tissues in warm-to-hot water for 1-3 minutes.
  2. Stimulate yourself to get a semi-erection or full erection (based on whether you're a beginner or experienced Fleshlight user)
  3. Hold the valve at the tip of the Fleshlight to prevent water from coming out of the tip
  4. While still holdimg the valve, fill the Fleshlight fully with warm-hot water.
  5. Place your penis inside the water-filled Fleshlight, keeping as much water inside as possible.
  6. Press the base (the foam ring) of the Fleshlight against your pelvis to form a tight seal.
  7. That's pretty much it. Let the Fleshlight sit on your pelvis and penis for 10-15 minutes to do your girth training.
  8. As pressure starts to slowly decrease, add more pressure by pumping the Fleshlight towards your pelvis.
  9. After you have used the Fleshlight for 10-15 minutes, remove it by pressing down on the valve at the tip to release the pressure.
  10. Slide your penis out of the Fleshlight. You're done!

Beginners vs. Experienced Users

You can get to the experienced user level in about 2 weeks.

The main thing to understand as beginner is to not overdo it.

The pressure in the pump can be quite powerful.

Two things a beginner shouldn't do:

  1. Not use a full, rock-hard erection. Instead they should start off at 60% hardness their first time and gradually work up from there for subsequent sessions.
  2. Pump the Fleshlight to it's maximum pressure. Remember, you can always re-pump the Fleshlight since it slowly loses it's pressure force. A beginner shouldn't really do this, but rather get use to the Fleshlight sensations and avoid inducing pain.

After two weeks of getting used to it (assuming you used it everyday), you should be pretty experienced with the device and you can start to use rock-hard erections and start maximizing the pressure inside the Fleshlight.

Remember, the Fleshlight is very durable and will last you a long time, so there's no need to rush and end up hurting yourself.

Tips When Using the Fleshlight

Keeping the water in the Fleshlight while placing your penis inside may be a little challenging.

Therefore try to keep the Fleshlight upright like a cup and enter your penis from above.

Try to prevent as little water from spilling out as much as possible.

This takes a little bit of practice.

For those who shower and stand-up, you may want to invest in the Fleshlight leash which is attached to the tip of the Fleshlight and holds it up so that it doesn't weigh down on your erection.

In other words, you don't have to use your hands to support and hold it up for your whole 10-15 minute session.

That can kind of be a pain - I can speak from experience.

Things to Avoid doing When Using the Fleshlight

You definitely don't want to use it, and not clean it. See here on how to maintain and clean your Fleshlight properly.

You also want to put on the "Renewing Powder" but we also talk about that in the cleaning section, below.

Other than that, there's isn't really any other safety hazard when using it, like other enlargement tools, because it's essentially a sex toy.

Things to Expect When You Use the Fleshlight

The first thing to expect and you'll clearly see is that immediately after you the Fleshlight for the first time, your penis will be unquestionably larger.

Your penis will hang a bit lower than usual, and it will definitely be wider (increased girth).

This "pump" is similar to the "pump" that you get when you work out at the gym - that is, your muscles immediately after a workout temporarily stay large.

However this "pump" is temporary and will probably last 3-6 hours.

Therefore, it's a great tool to use before a date if you expect sex to follow.

Another thing to expect are the long-term gains.

One thing to note is that these long-term gains aren't permanent per-se.

It's just the gains will start to last longer with consistent Fleshlight use. The gains will slowly disappear and taper-off, but continuous usage of the Fleshlight prevents this, effectively giving you larger girth 24/7.

How much use is necessary to maintain a large size all the time?

At minimum, you should at least do two 15-minute Fleshlight sessions a week to achieve this.

Maintaining and Cleaning Your Fleshlight

You definitely want to keep your Fleshlight clean, especially since you ejaculate inside of it.

The first thing to do is to uncap the Fleshlight at the opposite end of where you stick your penis in and run water throught the whole thing.

Let the water enter from the main entrance and let it exit through the uncapped back end.

This is a good first pass at getting most of the ejaculate and lube out of the device.

The next step is to use the cleaning solution that comes with the kit.

You want to spray it on the "lips" opening and try to get as much of the cleaning solution on the inside as well.

Then proceed to run more water through the device to remove the cleaning solution.

Now you have to let it dry. You don't want to store it yet or else the water that stays on it for long periods of times will grow bacteria.

If you live by yourself, you're lucky. You can just let it sit out on a counter in any room of your hosue to let it dry.

If you live with roommates or with your family... well you don't really want them to see it lying out in the open -- unless they don't care.

The main thing is to not store it in a cramped place or put it back into it's case when it's still wet.

After you let it dry (this may take about half a day just to be safe), put the Renewing Powder on the main opening and pat it around.

This is to preserve it's soft and spongy properties, as well as the nice feel it has against your skin. It also makes the material last longer.

After you do all this, you can put it back into the case and store it away.

Variation exercises to do with the Fleshlight

So we mentioned earlier that you can do some exercises with the Fleshlight to stretch your ligaments to target length.

Here's how you do it.

When you have the Fleshlight on, push down on it from above to stretch the ligaments on the top of your penis.

This exercise is good because these ligaments don't usually get stretched and the combination of your full-erection sealed with the Fleshlight's water chamber pressure is perfect for targeting this.


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