Best Places to Meet Women

Written by Jeff Ferrara on June 11, 2016


man and woman kissing at a bar in the city

Why demographics matter and what to do if you have bad ones.

Analyzing your location demographics situation

There's actually a really simple rule when it comes to meeting women (and attractive ones, at that), when it comes to location.

That's simply, if the location is "hot" or "popular", you can damn be sure that the women there will also be fine. Of course there are exceptions, but once you realize this, you'll already be armed with a useful piece of knowledge to help increase your chances.

First, analyze your macro location. In general, where do you live? Do you live in a big city? In a suburb? The country? Dating and meeting women is a pure numbers game. If you're success rate with getting her number is 10%, and there's only 100 available women in the near area - you only have ten options.

Conversely, if you live in a popular city like NY or LA, and there's 1000 women in within a 5 mile radius of your location, then with a 10% phone number success rate, you'll have 100 potential women to date.

Obviously, you can get into very specific factors, but this macro-level location analysis really only takes 1 minute to do and reveals so much about your potential success.

What to do if you have a "bad" location

Really, there's only one thing to do. You have to take a long hard look in the mirror and ask yourself is this where I want to be for the next few years of my life?

I know everyone has different career plans, but is it possible for you to pursue the same or similar career in a more attractive location?

The only goal when meeting women in the real world

The only goal when meeting women is one and one thing only: Getting their phone number

Don't fall for the Hollywood BS where you meet them once and "plant the seed in her mind", where in your next fateful encounter, she falls for you. Doesn't work that way - it's too volatile.

You want hard results, preferably measurable (so you can look a the numbers to analyze if you're doing something wrong).

The hard reality is that you may never see her again. So having a method to getting in contact with her is the most practical and effective method to continuing your relationship with the woman.

And that's the how you do it - by getting her phone number.

If you only take away one thing from this article, it better be: Your goal when meeting women in the real world is to get their phone number. Throw any BS you might have previously thought contrary to this out the window.

The list of places to meet women

Ask yourself: "If I was a woman, where would I want to go?". To save you time on the answers, here are some of our best places to meet women. You may come up with more. If we think of more, we'll update this blog and add it to the list and give reasons why.

  • Mall/Shopping Complex
  • Main streets, usually with restaurants
  • Beaches
  • Parks
  • Office Buildings - with multiple companies renting it out.
  • Bars (See our how to meet and take home women at bars guide)
  • Gym classes - tons of good-looking women go to yoga or pilates classes. At the very least get a gym membership. Equinox is a good choice - generally good looking people here.

Equinox main lobby example

Malls/Shopping Complexes

If you haven't already figured it out, women like to buy stuff. That's not surprising because sales are driven off of emotions - and women have a lot more of it than men. No this isn't sexist, it's simply a fact.

Malls and shopping complexes, especially ones with nice exterior and interior design, are perfect places to meet women because they are in a "buying" mode.

And you're trying to sell your profile to them - your looks, your style, your money, your power, your personality.

Main streets, usually with restaurants

Beaches

Parks

Office Buildings - with multiple companies renting it out.

Bars

Gym classes

man texting on his phone at a nice gym

There is zero shame going out by yourself.

This is probably the single biggest thing you (in addition to fixing your location), that will help your numbers game with women, and here's why:

In fact, it's highly recommended.

The problem with going out with a group is that you feel obligated to keep that group together. This is true whether it's a mixed group (males and females) or just you and you male buddies.

At the very least, these group responsibilities are at the back of your mind. Ideally, you don't want to worry about that - you want to focus on you and any girls that you come across. You don't want to worry about your buddy feeling uncomfortable or left out.

It will feel awkward the first time you go out by yourself. However there is a surefire way to get rid of the discomfort that you may feel when going out by yourself.

Head out by yourself, but don't hit on any women

This is probably the single most effective step that you can take to build the confidence of going out on your own.

Don't start off big either. The best way to start is to dress casually and simply head to a sports bar, sit at the bar (not a table) order a meal and a drink, watch the game and leave. That's your whole gameplan for this first step.

Until you can do this step with zero anxiety, you'll never be able to even go to places to meet women, let alone talk to them.

The best time of the day to meet women

You want to meet women when they are in a receptive mood. This means you don't really want to hit on them when they're really busy or stressed out.

Time of the day naturally caters to this reality.

From experience and some of my friends' experiences, we can highly recommend that on weekdays, past 4pm is a great time to meet women. The reason for this is that they are coming off work, and women typically work 9-5pm or daytime salary jobs and will typically "stop working" mentally at around 4pm. Women are less likely than men to take their work into the waking hours of the night. After all, they need to get time in the day to post their selfies and food pictures on social media.

We're not advocating that you put a hard restriction on talking to women before 4pm on weekdays - that's completely counter-intuitive to your numbers game. We're saying, you may want to go more out of your way to flirt with women after 4pm, rather than before it. That is, if you happen bump into women before 4pm, still feel free to exercise your game with the endgoal of the conversation being to get her phone number.

For weekends, generally anytime of the day is a great time to meet women. This includes early mornings.


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